Marco has had a tough week, missing his brother. It seems that he feels enough time has gone by and that he would like Loren back now. Please.
He says that Loren is asleep under the flowers and that he will go and wake Loren up.
Suddenly he has grasped the concept that some things belong to other people rather than just being MINE MINE MINE!
So, he asked me yesterday about one of the teddy bears. I answered that Johan had given Loren the bear when Loren was a very small baby. But I added that Loren would want Marco to have the bear now.
A small serious face looked up at me: “Until he comes back, Mama?”
And it suddenly strikes me that he was right. Loren is coming back. Not today or tomorrow, maybe. But one day, we’ll all be together again.
3 responses so far ↓
Mel // June 18, 2007 at 12:32 pm |
There’s nothing like the perspective of a young child.
Thanks for sharing this!
Kendra // June 18, 2007 at 7:03 pm |
wow, it’s so hard for young children to understand the gravity of death. Of course they will meet again, but the concept is difficult to understand for anyone, much less a young child.
Kathryn // June 19, 2007 at 7:15 am |
I would have burst into tears. But, it’s true, one day you will all be together again. Oh so hard to explain all of this to a little one. So hard for a mother not to be able to give a son what he needs especially since you need the same thing. Grief is raw like that. But better on the surface than buried deep down. Better to feel it than not.
At least grief is another side of love so not a bad thing though a very difficult thing.